There are things I'm good at, and things I struggle with. Taking care of myself has always been something that comes quite naturally to me. In fact, it has been a constant practice for me to learn how to make sure I'm ALSO taking care of the others around me. This is almost the exact opposite issue for most women, who are usually talented at taking care of everyone BUT themselves. So, since self-care is something I understand intimately, I'd like to share the things I do to be good to myself -- and challenge you to incorporate more of these into your daily life...
1. Candlelight Baths
I take one almost every single day. There is a difference, in my opinion, between taking a normal bath in full light, and a bath in only candlelight. Life is too short to not experience romance whenever possible. In my baths I often pour certain essential oils and salts, and I often like to scrub myself with sugars. Once in awhile, I even play some music, or invite my husband to join me. Probably, if I ever do have a baby, I will bring my baby in to join me/us. But, mostly, it is MY ritual and it means so much to me that when I travel and am staying somewhere without a bathtub, my heart breaks a little.
2. Surrounding With Scent
I spend concentrated time making sure my home smells wonderful. There is nothing like coming back to my cozy little abode and have it welcome me with amazing smells. This is definitely a way that I care for myself, and create for myself an environment that feels blissful. I'm always experimenting with different methods, be it oil diffusers, soy wax cubes melted in wickless warmers, stove top potpourri, etc. I also love to find ways of adding scents to myself, even now when I've fallen away from commercial/mainstream perfumes. Currently, my personal body scent fave is this one.
3. Taking To My Bed
Back in the day, ladies who were overwhelmed by life would "take to their beds". Well, in my own strong, feminist way, I've brought that tradition back. When life starts feeling heavy, and I sense I'm drowning, I attempt to eek out a 24-hour period when I can take to my bed. Sometimes it can only be a half-day, but I do what I can. During this time, I hunker in to my consciously comfy, very cozy bed with a Bed Picnic that consists of my MacBook Pro, my journal, my favourite foods, too-many-pillows & I refuse reality. I nap, and watch funny videos, and journal, and nap, and eat while watching movies, and listen to inspiring podcasts, and nap, and eat. What this is doing is recharging my battery. And it works. The next day I have even more of the energy and enthusiasm I am known for:-)
4. Singing And Dancing
Even though I do these things for a living, and they can be dangerous to try and do without getting into my 'head' about them, letting myself dance and sing for pure pleasure makes me very happy. Lately, I've been tapping again, and putting on music really loudly and just tapping away is so liberating! When I was in Vancouver I was lindyhopping and I always felt better about everything after swing dancing. As for singing, I like to find some alone time and then play karaoke videos on YouTube and sing myself hoarse. No auditioning, no performing, no caring what I look or sound like. Just letting loose & taking care of my creative soul:)
5. A Body Tuneup Day
There comes a time as a vehicle owner when I can tell I need to give my car some love. So I pick a day and I wash it, and vacuum it, and do an oil change & maybe even bring some of that #2 love to the car. This in itself is a way I take care of myself, but even more so, is scheduling a day to love up my body vehicle. If I can find a chunk of time off in a day, I will make it a "body tuneup day" and book myself into several appointments. For me, those will usually be: massage, chiropractic, colon hydrotherapy, hair and/or nails, yoga. It is important, in my opinion, to give back to my amazing body that is always so good to me. I also usually buy myself some coconut water and kale chips at the local health food store as my light and nutritious Body Tuneup Day snack:-)