Sunday, August 24, 2008
Sex In Tents
Leon and I have spent the last two nights sleeping in a tent. I love tents. I love sex in tents. Enough said.
Yesterday was our trek to Bowen Island, my first chance to explore the place that raised my husband. Of course, I loved it. I loved it. Sex in tents and BC Island love - a perfect world. The place is filled with trees and hippies and young, fit families with ultra sensitive dads carrying their babies in new age slings. It smells like wet cedar and the houses are mind boggling. If I could dig up $800K then perhaps I would have enough for a LOT. Jeeeeezuz. It is my dream and will remain my dream and I know that it will come true. I will live on a BC Island in a magic cottage with a sensitive husband carrying my baby in a sling --- even if I have to wait until I am 80!!! And so it is!
Funny how I swing back and forth, back and forth about wanting a baby. But I will tell you that when I am on an island like Bowen or Pender, I want one instantly. Yet, this trip has reminded me again of another issue that I can't ignore and that is a definite baby-having deterrent. I married an actor who is ambitious and wants to have success in the Canadian theatre scene. This means that we will be apart...some years more months than others...but almost definitely we will have to be okay with spending months apart. I hate this reality, but unless I want to follow him around (which I don't) or he wants to change occupations (which he doesn't) we will be separated often. How and why would we bring a baby into that kind of situation? To leave me alone with the baby to fend with the raising of our child on our own while our kid develops terrible abandonment issues?? To shuffle our poor child around so that dad can chase his dream? To tear my husband's passion and love of what he does from his heart and expect him to then be a dad without resentment? No, no and no. You see what I mean?
My baby days - few and far between - are squelched down almost as fast as they appear. Ah, well, there is at least the sex in tents.
Hey, did you know that dolphins are the only other mammal that has sex for pleasure and not just procreation?
No wonder I liked visiting the Vancouver Aquarium so darn much.
Yesterday was our trek to Bowen Island, my first chance to explore the place that raised my husband. Of course, I loved it. I loved it. Sex in tents and BC Island love - a perfect world. The place is filled with trees and hippies and young, fit families with ultra sensitive dads carrying their babies in new age slings. It smells like wet cedar and the houses are mind boggling. If I could dig up $800K then perhaps I would have enough for a LOT. Jeeeeezuz. It is my dream and will remain my dream and I know that it will come true. I will live on a BC Island in a magic cottage with a sensitive husband carrying my baby in a sling --- even if I have to wait until I am 80!!! And so it is!
Funny how I swing back and forth, back and forth about wanting a baby. But I will tell you that when I am on an island like Bowen or Pender, I want one instantly. Yet, this trip has reminded me again of another issue that I can't ignore and that is a definite baby-having deterrent. I married an actor who is ambitious and wants to have success in the Canadian theatre scene. This means that we will be apart...some years more months than others...but almost definitely we will have to be okay with spending months apart. I hate this reality, but unless I want to follow him around (which I don't) or he wants to change occupations (which he doesn't) we will be separated often. How and why would we bring a baby into that kind of situation? To leave me alone with the baby to fend with the raising of our child on our own while our kid develops terrible abandonment issues?? To shuffle our poor child around so that dad can chase his dream? To tear my husband's passion and love of what he does from his heart and expect him to then be a dad without resentment? No, no and no. You see what I mean?
My baby days - few and far between - are squelched down almost as fast as they appear. Ah, well, there is at least the sex in tents.
Hey, did you know that dolphins are the only other mammal that has sex for pleasure and not just procreation?
No wonder I liked visiting the Vancouver Aquarium so darn much.
Posted by Krista J. Konkin at 10:19 PM
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