Monday, January 16, 2006
Burrrr-ba-rella
Two things to ponder here: why do couples talk to each other in baby voices? Oh, I know, I know, most of you right now are thinkin' "gawd, no...i would NEVER do something so totally nauseating"...but much like masterbation and picking our nose, I feel it safe to bet that more than a few of us do it. I had a friend back in Toronto who had a theory that the baby voices were a way of getting out of being vulnerable with the intimate things we communicate. It is much easier to get all mushy-moo and gurgle "your my mostest favoriteist hunny bunny in the whole world!" with your best voice-of-a-four-year-old than to look someone in the eye and tell them, straight up, as an adult, "I love you and I am incredibly lucky to have you in my life." Her theory ain't bad. All I know is that, baby voices or not, they gotta stay outta the sex life or you are doomed. Image a man all muscles and abs looking down at you in the heat of the moment and cooing "you're my lubber dubber sexy-poo-poo...". Ya, you get my drift.
Second thing is a question that I suppose I could ask on my Konkin Questions, but I will observe here first. What words push your buttons? I noticed today the word "church" and "God" and "like-mindedness" throw someone into a place of distrust and defense and total frustration. Then I watched as the word "money" was added to the mix with the words mentioned above and even MY buttons were pushed. I know the words "wedding" and "babies" push some kind of fear button in my boyfriend and I have watched many people squirm at vulgarity, which I suppose is less surprising. What do we attach to "divorce" or "partner"? Ever notice that a word is just a word and that there as many interpretations of that word as there are people?
Ok, I guess there is a third thing to talk about. I dislike secrecy. I would think that is obvious from reading my blogs and how I talk about my private life pretty openly. Don't ever be fooled. What is most privately mine will never be blogged, not because I need to keep it a secret, but because it is a reality that is indescribably my own and beyond trying to explain to anyone. You want to keep a secret, I say you are giving that thing power. I don't choose that. I live out loud. It isn't for everybody and that is cool. I do know that things I have had the guts to talk about when nobody else would have helped a few people feel a lot less like freaks when they realized they weren't the only ones going through x, y or z. Ask me anything. To the best of my ability I will tell you. Put it all out on the line.
Wadda ya got to lose?
Second thing is a question that I suppose I could ask on my Konkin Questions, but I will observe here first. What words push your buttons? I noticed today the word "church" and "God" and "like-mindedness" throw someone into a place of distrust and defense and total frustration. Then I watched as the word "money" was added to the mix with the words mentioned above and even MY buttons were pushed. I know the words "wedding" and "babies" push some kind of fear button in my boyfriend and I have watched many people squirm at vulgarity, which I suppose is less surprising. What do we attach to "divorce" or "partner"? Ever notice that a word is just a word and that there as many interpretations of that word as there are people?
Ok, I guess there is a third thing to talk about. I dislike secrecy. I would think that is obvious from reading my blogs and how I talk about my private life pretty openly. Don't ever be fooled. What is most privately mine will never be blogged, not because I need to keep it a secret, but because it is a reality that is indescribably my own and beyond trying to explain to anyone. You want to keep a secret, I say you are giving that thing power. I don't choose that. I live out loud. It isn't for everybody and that is cool. I do know that things I have had the guts to talk about when nobody else would have helped a few people feel a lot less like freaks when they realized they weren't the only ones going through x, y or z. Ask me anything. To the best of my ability I will tell you. Put it all out on the line.
Wadda ya got to lose?
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