Tuesday, September 27, 2005
Let Me Count The Ways
Today is my 10 Month-a-versary with Jordan Hart Good Lewin.
Last night I asked him who he thought the Love of His Life is - if he couldn't count me. Confused, he asked me to define what a Love of someone's Life might look like and I was actually sorta stumped. "It's those people that you never quite totally get over and that you carry around with you in a big way wondering WHAT IF", I began to explain. "Does that mean," he then asked, "that the Love of your Life has to be someone that you can't be with?" Thinking about that I remembered occasions where husbands and wives of many years would stand up and declare that their spouse was, indeed, the Love of their Life. "Well, no." I answered. "I suppose some people get to end up with the Love of their Lives, but it is rare." Then we both got silent and tried to figure out which lover before Us would hold that huge title. Finally, Jordan looked at me, his gorgeous head on our white pillows, and said "I don't have one." And I knew, as he said it that I didn't either or that, possibly, I was staring at mine falling asleep.
So, in dedication of this day and that conversation...the Top Ten reasons I believe that my current partner could very well be the Love of My Life:
1. He cooks. He doesn't just cook, he chops and dices and sears and spices and creates. He adores good quality food. But he can also, once in awhile, sit down and eat Chocolate Mousse for supper - me, him, a big bowl and two spoons.
2. He wants out of the city. When we go and look at homes for fun, it is always the same property that stirs our hearts. Outside of the city, surrounded by trees, close to the water, a magic cottage just big enough for us and our laptops. With goats on the roof. Ah, yes, the goats.
3. He is in no rush to have kids. He even seems content if we never have kids. This would be a bad thing to most women, but for me, it is freedom. Of course, one day this could change for me or him or both, but for now, it is a blessing.
4. Jo Design. I am convinced I could work as a business partner with this man very peacefully and that stuns me. He is the type of guy that would work hard, but make sure to take 'make out' breaks. He is the calm to my storm. He has brought Design to my life for which I will always be grateful.
5. He is sexy naked. This man turns me on. His self-effacing ways, his unabashed love of being naked in our home, his shy ways of wanting to see ME naked, the gentleness in his lovemaking, the fun we have in our attraction to each other.
6. He is aware of what he feels. This is huge. Most men are not naturally able to come to you and say - can I tell you how I am feeling about this or that? Jo does. He feels huge amounts and communicates it and if he is sad he cries and if he has to say something hard to be honest, he does. He is aunthentic.
7. He has got great family. A mother who adores him and is this free spirited, passionate woman. A father who tells him every time they talk that he loves him and is proud of him. A step-mom that would do anything for him. A brother who works in Hollywood on CSI Miami and is still as humble and real as Jo. They are good people. Even for Americans. ;)
8. He is a musician. He plays guitar like an angel. Self-taught and, again, pretty shy about his gift, Jordan wowed me the first time he picked up his guitar and started playing. Sharing music with someone is so important to me. As it is to him.
9. He is clean and good with his money. Two very admirable and yes-I-can-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you qualities. We share chores equally. He loves his home in order. He pays bills on time and saves up lots for the fun stuff like investing. He makes good money, but cares more about his happiness doing the work than the paycheque. We fit on these topics.
10. He is in love with me. Here is how I know. Becauase he hates being away from me, even for a work day, but I know that If I had to go somewhere far away to chase a dream he would support it. Because he makes time to nuture us without me having to ask. Because at night he crawls into bed and snuggles in close and beams at me. Just beams. Because he allows me to love him back, with a fierceness that might scare most men.
Hey, I might not have a clear life path right now, I may be unemployed and self-destructive and self-pitying. But hallelujiah that this is one area in my life that I can say
I Am The Luckiest.
Thank you, Jo.
Last night I asked him who he thought the Love of His Life is - if he couldn't count me. Confused, he asked me to define what a Love of someone's Life might look like and I was actually sorta stumped. "It's those people that you never quite totally get over and that you carry around with you in a big way wondering WHAT IF", I began to explain. "Does that mean," he then asked, "that the Love of your Life has to be someone that you can't be with?" Thinking about that I remembered occasions where husbands and wives of many years would stand up and declare that their spouse was, indeed, the Love of their Life. "Well, no." I answered. "I suppose some people get to end up with the Love of their Lives, but it is rare." Then we both got silent and tried to figure out which lover before Us would hold that huge title. Finally, Jordan looked at me, his gorgeous head on our white pillows, and said "I don't have one." And I knew, as he said it that I didn't either or that, possibly, I was staring at mine falling asleep.
So, in dedication of this day and that conversation...the Top Ten reasons I believe that my current partner could very well be the Love of My Life:
1. He cooks. He doesn't just cook, he chops and dices and sears and spices and creates. He adores good quality food. But he can also, once in awhile, sit down and eat Chocolate Mousse for supper - me, him, a big bowl and two spoons.
2. He wants out of the city. When we go and look at homes for fun, it is always the same property that stirs our hearts. Outside of the city, surrounded by trees, close to the water, a magic cottage just big enough for us and our laptops. With goats on the roof. Ah, yes, the goats.
3. He is in no rush to have kids. He even seems content if we never have kids. This would be a bad thing to most women, but for me, it is freedom. Of course, one day this could change for me or him or both, but for now, it is a blessing.
4. Jo Design. I am convinced I could work as a business partner with this man very peacefully and that stuns me. He is the type of guy that would work hard, but make sure to take 'make out' breaks. He is the calm to my storm. He has brought Design to my life for which I will always be grateful.
5. He is sexy naked. This man turns me on. His self-effacing ways, his unabashed love of being naked in our home, his shy ways of wanting to see ME naked, the gentleness in his lovemaking, the fun we have in our attraction to each other.
6. He is aware of what he feels. This is huge. Most men are not naturally able to come to you and say - can I tell you how I am feeling about this or that? Jo does. He feels huge amounts and communicates it and if he is sad he cries and if he has to say something hard to be honest, he does. He is aunthentic.
7. He has got great family. A mother who adores him and is this free spirited, passionate woman. A father who tells him every time they talk that he loves him and is proud of him. A step-mom that would do anything for him. A brother who works in Hollywood on CSI Miami and is still as humble and real as Jo. They are good people. Even for Americans. ;)
8. He is a musician. He plays guitar like an angel. Self-taught and, again, pretty shy about his gift, Jordan wowed me the first time he picked up his guitar and started playing. Sharing music with someone is so important to me. As it is to him.
9. He is clean and good with his money. Two very admirable and yes-I-can-spend-the-rest-of-my-life-with-you qualities. We share chores equally. He loves his home in order. He pays bills on time and saves up lots for the fun stuff like investing. He makes good money, but cares more about his happiness doing the work than the paycheque. We fit on these topics.
10. He is in love with me. Here is how I know. Becauase he hates being away from me, even for a work day, but I know that If I had to go somewhere far away to chase a dream he would support it. Because he makes time to nuture us without me having to ask. Because at night he crawls into bed and snuggles in close and beams at me. Just beams. Because he allows me to love him back, with a fierceness that might scare most men.
Hey, I might not have a clear life path right now, I may be unemployed and self-destructive and self-pitying. But hallelujiah that this is one area in my life that I can say
I Am The Luckiest.
Thank you, Jo.
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