Tuesday, January 11, 2005
Living The Unimaginable Life
For anyone who has had a relationship that didn't 'work' or is in a relationship that could use a bit of help - even a tiny bit - please please please please read:
The Unimaginable Life by Kenny and Julia Loggins
I recieved this book as a gift for Christmas from Jordan and i read it during Christmas as a gift to Jordan. This book has altered the way i will look at relationship forever. And it has made me proud to declare that i have gotten myself into the most conscious relationship i have ever had.
This weekend proved that.
What was perfect about our self-proclaimed Nothing Weekend was that it wasn't perfect. Highlights included finally getting my period (thankyouthankyouthankyou), smooching in Stanley Park with Hot Chocolate, laughing like children at Will Farrell's Anchorman, dancing in living rooms and bedrooms and finally Abbotsford, creamcheese icing at one in the morning, making love again, sleeping in, seeing what works. But the weekend had other highlights that were painful and difficult and from them, we grew. There was feeling judged and there was judging, there was the relationship dance called trying-to-stay-true-to-yourself-while-being-flexible-enough-to-include-a-very-different-person-in-your-life. There were tears, on both our behalfs, struggling to not babysit each other's 'off' energies and wondering how you love someone without taking what they do (or don't do) personally.
At one point i was overwhelmed with how complicated it all seems to be and, to be honest, i am still sitting with that. But like Eckhart Tolle says in The Power of Now - that is my pain-body talking and the only way to not let it take over is to stand back and look at it. When you say to your pain-body - I SEE YOU - then it loses its power. And i plan to top this off with some gooey treatments that will help me re-member that Jo and i are, in Truth, unfolding with ease, joy and grace.
Above all, i want to be re-minded that falling in love daily is FUN.
Made some other neat discoveries in my journal this morning. I have zero ability to be criticized. It destroys me. I make many choices throughout my day in hopes of avoiding any situation where i could be reprimanded or criticized. I plan to keep exploring this new awareness. Curious, isn't it?
5 More Movies I Am Told I Must See:
Hotel Rawanda
Finding Neverland
The Aviator
Sideways
The Woodsmen
A website that i just discovered and highly recommend: www.thegreatstory.org
And visit my buddy's new blog - angst and all: http://darrylfocker.blogspot.com
...and to round it off i will give you Kenny Loggin's new albulm as my newest listening pick:
It's About Time .... for more info visit his site at www.kennyloggins.com.
Oh, and a quote. I can't forget a quote...how's this:
"I hate quotations. Tell me what you know." ---Emerson
Ok, if you insist...
The Unimaginable Life by Kenny and Julia Loggins
I recieved this book as a gift for Christmas from Jordan and i read it during Christmas as a gift to Jordan. This book has altered the way i will look at relationship forever. And it has made me proud to declare that i have gotten myself into the most conscious relationship i have ever had.
This weekend proved that.
What was perfect about our self-proclaimed Nothing Weekend was that it wasn't perfect. Highlights included finally getting my period (thankyouthankyouthankyou), smooching in Stanley Park with Hot Chocolate, laughing like children at Will Farrell's Anchorman, dancing in living rooms and bedrooms and finally Abbotsford, creamcheese icing at one in the morning, making love again, sleeping in, seeing what works. But the weekend had other highlights that were painful and difficult and from them, we grew. There was feeling judged and there was judging, there was the relationship dance called trying-to-stay-true-to-yourself-while-being-flexible-enough-to-include-a-very-different-person-in-your-life. There were tears, on both our behalfs, struggling to not babysit each other's 'off' energies and wondering how you love someone without taking what they do (or don't do) personally.
At one point i was overwhelmed with how complicated it all seems to be and, to be honest, i am still sitting with that. But like Eckhart Tolle says in The Power of Now - that is my pain-body talking and the only way to not let it take over is to stand back and look at it. When you say to your pain-body - I SEE YOU - then it loses its power. And i plan to top this off with some gooey treatments that will help me re-member that Jo and i are, in Truth, unfolding with ease, joy and grace.
Above all, i want to be re-minded that falling in love daily is FUN.
Made some other neat discoveries in my journal this morning. I have zero ability to be criticized. It destroys me. I make many choices throughout my day in hopes of avoiding any situation where i could be reprimanded or criticized. I plan to keep exploring this new awareness. Curious, isn't it?
5 More Movies I Am Told I Must See:
Hotel Rawanda
Finding Neverland
The Aviator
Sideways
The Woodsmen
A website that i just discovered and highly recommend: www.thegreatstory.org
And visit my buddy's new blog - angst and all: http://darrylfocker.blogspot.com
...and to round it off i will give you Kenny Loggin's new albulm as my newest listening pick:
It's About Time .... for more info visit his site at www.kennyloggins.com.
Oh, and a quote. I can't forget a quote...how's this:
"I hate quotations. Tell me what you know." ---Emerson
Ok, if you insist...
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