I just posted a very controversial blog post, extrapolating on my opinions regarding my gender, identity, baby-having and how are we really haven't come very far at all...it bubbled up from a recent FB comment from a friend, and the reading of this blog post:
...which made me wanna throw up all over myself.
I wrote the post, felt great about it, and then promptly deleted it.
I'm gettin' soft, people.
I even entitled THIS post "Pussy"...and have gone back to edit that, too. Makes me wonder what the point of keeping up this blog is, if I'm gonna edit every little single thing that has any edge to it.
Think 2012 is gonna need to see www.kjkonkin.com become a dedicated business site & my rock-the-boat editorials kept up at a different - anonymous - blog.
3 comments:
I think (and I'm not entirely sure here - so correct me if I'm wrong! Lol) but the article made you upset because the woman in it seemed entirely too happy giving up here old life and doing what she was doing - being a full time Mom? Did I misread your blog? That is what you meant right?! If so, here's the only piece of (lack of a better word here) wisdom I can shine upon it! Lol
There is really no real way you can truly understand "giving up yourself" (for awhile anyway) for someone else (insert baby here) until it happens to you. That's all there is to it really. no way of explaining it....because you can't know until you are in the mud of it. And if you are a woman who chooses to have said baby and after a bit of time go back to her previous life with the same vim and vigor - that's fabulous too. I think the fact that we "can " do either proves we HAVE really come very far.
It doesn't mean we don't have pangs of the orer way of life... Just as the woman in the article did. But it means we do This life - with the unyielding passion we have done everything- jobs, art, dating e
Sorry - got cut off. What was I saying...! Oh yeah, it doesn't mean we don't have pangs for the other way of life - of course we do, but giving yourself over for someone else - truly Giving your Whole self....is like nothing I have ever done before. I've thought I'd been a wonderful and giving partner (and I was) but this feeling of Wanting to give yourself to another human being....is incomparable to any feeling I've had before. Truly. The love you feel for this creature changes you. And you can't know it, feel it or understand it - unless it happens to you.
So you do these crazy things - like giving up regular days jobs you love, many coffees wit girlfriends (you still do that on occasion!;). And your other dreams (yes even your other dreams) for the fulfillment of this dream. The one you weren't even sure you had.
It's strangely wild ... And yes, wonderful.
Well said "Big cuz".
I think we have come along way as well. I have to admit, though, I didn't like the tone of this editorial either. I think we all make choices in our lives, and ultimately have to live with them, whether this means being a stay-at-home mom, going back to work and missing your kids first words, or not having kids at all. I think that is what being a modern woman is about - choice. I think the biggest thing is realizing that we are all different (thank goodness), and we shouldn't criticize the choices others make, even if we ourselves wouldn't choose.
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